You forgot an appointment. You dropped your favorite coffee cup and broke it. You left the house with mismatched shoes. You forgot to put on deodorant. Does any of this sound like you? Keep reading.
Women are known to be multitaskers, always on the go. “If you can’t find it, ask mom!” right? We can remember everyone else’s things but not our own. Living a life this chaotic may be unavoidable but the self inflicted guilt doesn’t have to be part of it. I don’t know about you but when I mess up, my auto response to myself is negative self talk. “I can’t believe I’m that stupid! What’s wrong with me? Get it together!!” But that goes against what God shows us about grace. God doesn’t just tell us how to live a good life, He shows us too. When Jesus died on the cross for us He showed us how to give someone something they don’t deserve, and not give them a punishment they DO deserve. That “someone” also includes us when talking to ourselves.
Think about it like this…would you say such harsh things to someone else who made the same mistake that you did? If the answer is no, you need to apologize to yourself, forgive yourself, and try to be kinder in the future. Life is hard! We are running a thousand miles an hour most of the time so mess ups are bound to happen, but beating yourself up about it for a long time after the fact helps no one. It puts you in a bad mood and steals your joy. In Galatians 5:22 it says “but the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness”. If you are not showing people your JOY, you don’t have that fruit of the spirit. So you need to identify what is causing your fruit to sour and eliminate it from your life.
Philippians 4:4 Rejoice in the Lord always; again I will say, Rejoice.
Something I like to do when I’m feeling like my brain has turned to mush and I’m having a hard time giving myself the grace I so freely give to others is to play the grateful game. I start naming off all the things that I’m grateful for one at a time. Even things as obvious as being able to breathe, or for a sunny day, or for the ability to have arms and legs that work as they should. After about 10 minutes of this I start feeling much better because I’m taking my eyes off myself and my mistakes and I’m looking to God who reminds me that I’m wonderfully made.
Psalm 139:14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.
None of us are perfect. We are going to mess up and be scatter brained and unintentionally hurt people’s feelings. That’s part of living life as a HUMAN BEING. So don’t be so hard on yourself. Remember that grace is more than just a pretty name. It’s a gift that Jesus died to give you, so don’t throw it away. Cherish it and use it!